The Key to Improving How You Feel

Do you know that you have a great deal of control when it comes to managing your energy?

It all comes down to being in tune with the natural impulse with which we’re all wired, the ability to detect when we’re off balance and recalibrate.

So, where are you struggling to feel good, to show up energized in your life right now?

It’s amazing how much of a charged life we can lead when we become intentional about the energy we bring into any given situation.

Just take a moment to think about the energy you want to bring in your life for the next 90 days.

When doing so, consider three primary facets of energy —  mental, emotional, and physical — keeping in mind that to sustain a high performing life, our mental alertness and positive emotions (mind) and physical (body) must equally be nurtured.

The energy we generate and how we manage it, hands down, is one of the most important principles for living with joy, confidence, and fulfillment.

It’s the foundation upon which everything else is built. As such, it’s essential to amplify positive emotions, sustain mental clarity, and increase physical vitality.

However, when life gets busy, the last thing we think about is managing our energy.

As if we can run on empty, we tend to compromise first getting sufficient sleep, good diet, exercise, and rest. 

It’s when it’s most necessary that we throw out the window that which we need to support us in meeting the demands.

As my mentor says, “common sense is not always common practice.”

So, here is a simple framework that can help in always keeping you focused on staying on top of your energy so that you’re showing up strong.

Complete the sentences to see how you’re currently managing your mind and body then identify and set goals for the areas that can benefit from improvement.


  • The goals I have about mastering my mind—how I want to think, deal with stress, and create a good mindset include…
  • The daily and weekly habits and practices I need to start so that I can feel more energized by this area of my life include…


  • The goals I have about mastering my body—how I want to feel physically, how I want to move, be healthy, etc include…
  • The daily and weekly habits and practices I need to start so that I can feel more energized by this area of my life include…

The beauty of it all is that this puts you in control of feeling good about yourself, your relationships, and your work no matter what’s going on…and that’s the jumping off point to chasing your dreams with a full tank.

Your Quality of Life Depends on This One Factor

Have you ever wondered what is the difference between those who realize their dreams and make the most of life…and those who don’t?

Take a moment to think…how far along are you one month into the new year on the goals, intentions, resolutions, etc…that you’d set for yourself?

Admittedly, whether we at least get started or stay stuck, feeling overwhelmed is in our hands. So, why then do most of us tend to get in the way of achieving what we say we want?

This kind of examination when used for purposes of growth, rather than for beating ourselves up, can go a long way in actualizing the things we truly want in our lives which somehow seem elusive.

Remember, this isn’t about feeling bad about where you are. The goal is to help you see that many factors can contribute to putting the brakes on the things we want to move along, e.g., our level of perseverance, how chaotic or organized our lifestyles are, our sense of self worth, etc..

And, if we were to scratch below the surface, we would discover that the above examples in some way are related to one thing  — our CLARITY (or lack thereof).

Once we’re clear on what we want and why we want it (the second part of the equation for going after what we want with determination), then overcoming our limitations becomes more manageable. Why? Because what we want must happen for us — yes or yes!

So if you generally are the high performer, go-getter type…or you strive to be that in an area of your life, e.g., career, wellbeing, or relationships, then below is a powerful framework you can use to gain clarity and how you can make things happen.

<to create a vision for a life you love and move toward it>

Complete the sentences below by setting clear intentions for who you want to be, what skills you must develop to succeed, and what is meaningful to you. No matter where you are today, you can benefit from this tool and move toward creating a vision and realizing your ideal life…one goal at a time.


Three words that describe my best self are . . .

Some ideas for how I can embody these words more often this upcoming week are . . .


The five skills I’m trying to develop most in my life right now are . . .
The way I can learn or practice those skills this week includes . . .

Define What’s Meaningful

Something I can do or create that would bring me more meaning in life is . . .

Keep it simple, keep your eyes on the prize, tweak your approach as you progress, and take action to advance your goal.

What we focus on and practice is what we become. After you’ve completed this exercise, keep it some place where you’d see it daily so you can remind yourself of these things and consistently act on them.

P.s., Cheering you on! Be willing to go beyond the familiar and push your comfort zone, even if a little. And, if you’re doing this and still feel you’re lacking clarity or feeling stuck, then share your ideas and ask for feedback.

The Power of Having a Vision

Have a vision for what you want then act on it.


  • “Vision without action is a dream, action without vision is a nightmare.”
  • The importance of having a vision for what we want then going for it. We can avoid nightmarish situations, waste less time, and reach our goals much faster.
  • When you take the leap of faith, have the courage and enough confidence to approach someone in a manner where it’s collaborative, and you really want a good outcome for projects you’re working on then it becomes something that you’re able to influence.
  • At the end of the day, if you don’t have a clear vision for where you’re going then you’re going to bumble around and kill a lot of time. The best way to avoid that is to have clarity and to sometimes take charge, if need be, and put yourself in that leadership role.
  • Watch the video to get the full training.



[The following is a transcript of the video. Please note that it is unscripted and shot in one take.]

Hey friends, I recently read an old proverb that goes something like “vision without action is a dream, action without vision is a nightmare”.

So, I’m sure you can relate to situations where perhaps you’ve wanted to take action on something and you’re taking the action, you’re doing all kinds of things but you really don’t have a vision for what the outcome is. You really don’t have clarity on where it is that you want to go with it…so it becomes a bit of a nightmare because you just are going from one thing to the next aimlessly. And, that in and of itself, creates a very nightmarish situation.

Whereas, imagine a situation or a scenario where perhaps you have a vision. You’re taking the necessary actions to get there and you have a road map of sorts…a sort of syllabus where you know what’s going to happen, with a timeline, a deadline for delivery. Then you have such clarity and you don’t have to worry about what’s next. You could really use that bandwidth from trying to kind of bumble around things to actually going ahead and implementing things, from a project management perspective, if you will.

So there’s a real difference in feeling — where you feel contracted, where you are in that situation where you’re just bumbling around trying to get things done. But, you really don’t have a vision for what the grand scheme of things is and what you’re supposed to deliver at the end of the day. This, versus where you are clear on where you’re going and you sort of have a marching order that you can place for yourself or maybe somebody gives it to you.

But, this is just one scenario; it could also apply at work. You know, so you have a manager that is basically saying “hey we need to get this done but he doesn’t really give you a clear guideline of what needs to get done by when, in what sequence. You’re kind of feeling your way through and at any given time somebody can drop another bomb and say “oh we need this now, no we need this later”.

So, how do you avoid these kinds of situations? How do you proactively guard your energy so you can utilize them toward actually doing the tasks that are necessary for you to do?

One of the most important things that I’ve learned is to when you feel that sensation of things becoming nightmarish, it becoming out of control, and you not having a clear idea of where you are headed, it’s a good time to pause then talk to whoever’s in charge — especially if you are not in a position of power or control, if you’re not at the helm of making sure things are happening in a particular sequence. 

Just have a chat and say “hey I really need to figure out what needs to get done when, and in that way I can actually plan around that, and so I can use my energy, my mind, my mental space, and all of that stuff toward actually getting the things that need to get done done rather than spinning in circles.

And, that takes a lot of courage to approach somebody who might be let’s say above you. Egos might get hurt because you’re questioning perhaps how things are getting done. But, at the end of the day it really does put you in a position of influence.

When you actually take the leap of faith and have the courage and have enough confidence to approach someone in a manner where it’s collaborative and you really want a good outcome for whatever project you’re working on then it becomes something that you’re actually able to influence. You’re able to influence whoever’s in charge and also whomever is in your team.

It doesn’t always only have to be in a work environment. It could very well be in your relationships. It could be on any project that you’ve taken on. 

At the end of the day, if you don’t have a clear vision for where you’re going then you’re going to bumble around and kill a lot of time. The best way to avoid that is to have clarity and to sometimes take charge, if need be, and put yourself in that leadership role.

And, these are attributes — in terms of having confidence, courage, being a leader, and  our ability to influence — that are crucial skills that we need as we evolve in life. Especially, in light of everything that’s going on at the moment.

It really is important to assume the role of a leader. We really are needed to lead when everything is sort of in chaos and we’re not sure where to look. So, if you actually have the presence of mind and clarity then by all means do just that.

I’ll give you a little example to illustrate what I’m talking about. So, I’m taking a course for a couple of weeks and unfortunately the course is laid out in a way where you just go to class and they tell you what happens that day. But, you don’t know what’s next.

It went on like this for about a week before I finally couldn’t take it, where it became nightmarish. I got to class early one day and asked the teacher, again it’s in a foreign language so I was really trying and there were so many different barriers at play which made the situation even more miserable. But, I basically said “listen I just need to plan everything else that I also have to get done. Please give me an idea of what the timeline is”. I had a quick 10 minute chat with her, she laid it out for me — you need to do this then after that we’re going to do this and this and that and the other. 

Now I can work backwards, from the deadline that I had actually set for myself. And, I shared it with a handful of my classmates…everybody thought brilliant, now we know what comes next.

A small example but really illustrates the importance of taking charge. It really is important to show up for yourself and show up your mission. And, you guard that by basically guarding your energy, by knowing where you are going to go, what you’re going to do, and what the trajectory is going to be.

It’s essentially about making sure that you show up confidently for yourself, making sure that you are showing up courageously for yourself, knowing that you have the power to influence, to ask questions. 

You know, asking is free so you can ask whatever question you want you without being afraid of any kind of consequences as long as it’s in the interest of the project, the relationship, or whatever the case might be.

Well, friends I hope that serves you. If you found this video useful, do share it with others who you think might be inspired by it. And, if you have any comments do leave some comments below.