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How a Method-Driven Approach Helps You Succeed

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We all have goals and dreams, but the gap between aspiring and achieving can be daunting, right?

Here’s where the power of a method driven approach can be super helpful…

For example, what are “the basics” for most people for staying out of the highly stressed zone?

Perhaps getting sufficient sleep, a healthy diet, and physical activity is the method, the “basic” practice, that enables them to stay calm, fully charged, and have clarity on what needs to change in the face of stress or burnout on their journey toward whatever they’re aspiring for.

💖 I love a good process for anything I do because it makes navigating through life so much easier … whether I’m coaching a client through the high performance curriculum, developing software that went into mission critical products, or even in my yoga practice, it’s all about the process.

When I’m in a yoga class, for instance, I’m always employing the method approach to success.

Success, and the “basics”, in a yoga practice is “yoga chitta vritti nirodha”, often translated as “yoga is the calming or stilling the mind chatter”, emphasizing the importance of being in control of the mind and recognizing when it’s preventing us from clearly seeing the truth.

In yoga, it’s not about a task or checklist. It’s simply a mastery process, a dedication to a practice, one that’s not focused on one particular result.

You might think, ‘that’s a rather broad aspiration’, right?

However, here’s where showing up for the practice diligently with presence and intention over time comes into play, when for example mastering an advanced pose like a handstand, a pose that requires absolute stillness of the mind.

Similarly with your goals, if you take the approach of developing the method and mastery to achieve them, then the outcomes automatically take care of themselves.

So what’s your big audacious goal, a dream that you’re working toward that you’re going to start learning the mastery needed to achieve it?

P.s., If you need help workshopping a goal for which you’re trying to gain clarity, and how you can take the method approach to making a decision and realizing it, then click this link to checkout my quick and simple resource.

Your Quality of Life Depends on This One Factor

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Have you ever wondered what is the difference between those who realize their dreams and make the most of life…and those who don’t?

Take a moment to think…how far along are you one month into the new year on the goals, intentions, resolutions, etc…that you’d set for yourself?

Admittedly, whether we at least get started or stay stuck, feeling overwhelmed is in our hands. So, why then do most of us tend to get in the way of achieving what we say we want?

This kind of examination when used for purposes of growth, rather than for beating ourselves up, can go a long way in actualizing the things we truly want in our lives which somehow seem elusive.

Remember, this isn’t about feeling bad about where you are. The goal is to help you see that many factors can contribute to putting the brakes on the things we want to move along, e.g., our level of perseverance, how chaotic or organized our lifestyles are, our sense of self worth, etc..

And, if we were to scratch below the surface, we would discover that the above examples in some way are related to one thing  — our CLARITY (or lack thereof).

Once we’re clear on what we want and why we want it (the second part of the equation for going after what we want with determination), then overcoming our limitations becomes more manageable. Why? Because what we want must happen for us — yes or yes!

So if you generally are the high performer, go-getter type…or you strive to be that in an area of your life, e.g., career, wellbeing, or relationships, then below is a powerful framework you can use to gain clarity and how you can make things happen.

SEEK CLARITY 
<to create a vision for a life you love and move toward it>

Complete the sentences below by setting clear intentions for who you want to be, what skills you must develop to succeed, and what is meaningful to you. No matter where you are today, you can benefit from this tool and move toward creating a vision and realizing your ideal life…one goal at a time.

Self

Three words that describe my best self are . . .

Some ideas for how I can embody these words more often this upcoming week are . . .

Skills

The five skills I’m trying to develop most in my life right now are . . .
 
The way I can learn or practice those skills this week includes . . .

Define What’s Meaningful

Something I can do or create that would bring me more meaning in life is . . .

Keep it simple, keep your eyes on the prize, tweak your approach as you progress, and take action to advance your goal.

What we focus on and practice is what we become. After you’ve completed this exercise, keep it some place where you’d see it daily so you can remind yourself of these things and consistently act on them.

P.s., Cheering you on! Be willing to go beyond the familiar and push your comfort zone, even if a little. And, if you’re doing this and still feel you’re lacking clarity or feeling stuck, then share your ideas and ask for feedback.

How to Gain Behavior-driven Clarity and Intentionality in Your Life

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What’s the difference between those who realize their dreams and those who don’t?

Many factors contribute, e.g., determination, perseverance, chaotic lifestyles, lack of self worth, etc…

The real reason for why some realize their dreams and others don’t, however, can be distilled to one thing — CLARITY (or lack thereof). Most people’s dreams don’t get realized because they simply don’t know what they really want; therefore, they don’t have a vision of what their dream life would look like.

Consider this. If you were to take a survey of the people you know (including yourself) and ask if their daily activities add to giving their lives meaning, I’d bet the answer would be “no”. Why? Well, for a couple reasons. One, the familiar is comfortable so they stay in it even if they’re aware there is a higher level they can step into. Two, they’re willing to do the work needed to make a change but generally are unsure where to start, resulting in them carrying on with the status quo.

So, what’s the alternative? How can we create a vision for a life we love and move toward it? It’s simple. We must SEEK CLARITY.

Below is a powerful tool that I use to guide my Coaching clients to help them gain clarity on what they want and who they want to become. And, no matter where you are today, you too can benefit from this tool and move toward creating a vision for your ideal life.

Complete the sentences below. Set clear intentions for who you want to be, how you want to interact with others, what skills you must develop to succeed in the future, and how you can make a difference.

 Self

Three words that describe my best self are . . .

Some ideas for how I can embody these words more often this upcoming week are . . .

Social

Three words that could define how I want to treat other people are . . .

Some people in my life whom I could improve my interactions with this week include . . .

Skills

The five skills I’m trying to develop most in my life right now are . . .

The way I can learn or practice those skills this week includes . . .

Service

Three simple ways I can add value to those around me this week are . . .

Something I can do this week with focus and excellence to help someone else is . . .

Focus on the Feeling

The feelings I want to cultivate in my life, relationships, and work this week include . . .

The way I will generate these feelings is to . . .

Define What’s Meaningful

Something I can do or create that would bring me more meaning in life is . . .

What we focus on and practice is what we become. After you’ve completed this exercise, keep it some place where you’d see it daily so you can remind yourself of these things everyday and consistently act on them. A life of intentionality is a life well lived.

P.s., Book a free Discovery Session call with me for more.